I'm not giving him a list this year, he should know what I want!

There is that good ol' should word again... right about now you are probably realizing that you do that from time to time to other people as well! It's human nature to solicit advice or make assumptions on what people should or shouldn't do or know. So, relax, I am not going to jump down your throat every time you do this... because I am probably the queen at giving unsolicited advice. I will say this however, I am much more aware about it now than I used to be. ***Preface - I know that the meaning of Christmas is not about gifts, we say it to each other all the time, year after year, so I know this... but it doesn't stop us from actually wanting a gift***

READ ON to find out what I am even talking about and also to see the perfect gifts I got today!

IT'S CHRISTMAS TIME and we all think that our significant other should just really 'get me' and 'know me so well' that there should be zero disappointment on Christmas morning... says every Husband, Wife, Girlfriend, Boyfriend, whatever you are, am I right er what?!?!

Well sorry hunny, but that is just not the case for literally 99% of people in relationships. So stop getting upset when you don't get what you want, that life just isn't for most of us! I've known this forever, but what drove me to write this blog was because of a gift exchange that I had with a coworker this morning, yes a COWORKER and she got me THREE things that I have been eyeing up and talking about. But you know why she got me those things? Because... wait for it...

I TALK TO HER and SHE LISTENS!

You guys! We need to communicate that shit to our other half! Stop expecting and setting yourself up for disappointment! You know what you want so fucking ask for it! And if they don't get it for you and you end up with a Phillips Norelco beard trimmer, because that's actually what he really wanted... but you should have known that because you guys are just so 'in tune with each other'... then go out and buy what you want the day after Christmas when it's 40% off and go home and use that shit!

The fact of the matter is, is we are not mind readers and we need to communicate with each other to know what we want, feel, desire, dislike, etc. There is nothing wrong with telling someone what you want, even outside of the Christmas season, but you have to be able to have the confidence in yourself to do that! Sitting here and beating ourselves up over not getting what we want, in ALL facets of our lives is largely based on our very own actions. You need to find it in you to communicate your thoughts and stop holding things in, only to end up in a massive argument or extreme disappointment. My husband would never know that I wanted these hand made earrings or that I don't have any items of clothing that are buffalo plaid and I REALLY WANT SOME BUFFALO PLAID IN MY LIFE! How would he know those things unless I told him? He wouldn't!!!!!! But you know who did know that? My coworker! Why did she know that? Because one, she really likes to listen to super interesting people (haha) and two, because we talked about it, otherwise she wouldn't know either!

Moral of the story kids... COMMUNICATE! I know this is easier said that done, but you owe it to yourself to be happy. It doesn't always have to come in the form of a gift, it can come in whatever your 'love language' is... but you're going to continue to be disappointed time after time if you don't talk about things. This goes for love, work, sex, food, gifts, clothes, frustrations, you name it, your ass needs to talk about it.

What was it that I got you ask? I got the cutest handcrafted earrings from WillowBrooke. I have been bothering my coworker about hers for a solid 3 weeks. You guys these are the CUTEST earrings that I have probably ever owned, no joke. BONUS - She is local (southern Minnesota) and I love supporting my local small businesses!I also got a BUFFALO PLAID SHIRT from Bellebrook Boutique... also local to southern Minnesoooootahh!!!! I may or may not ever take it off... I absolutely love everything that I have ever gotten from there... but this particular piece means a lot to me because I am not even sure how I have survived this long without buffalo plaid in my closet!